The series, “Lean on me: a caregiver’s guide to safeguarding and supporting healing from sexual abuse” is now available to view online at:
Child sexual abuse and exploitation are pervasive in the United States, with 1 in 4 female and 1 and 6 male children experiencing some form of sexual violence before they turn 18. Safeguarding children against sexual abuse and exploitation can be a daunting responsibility, and truly caring for and supporting a child who has experienced the devastating effects of these crimes can be challenging. In this much-anticipated series, we will explore the topics of childhood sexual abuse and exploitation, the effects of these forms of violence on children and those around them, and provide caregivers with advice and tools for supporting them on a journey of healing.
Next Generation/RAINN has produced a video that is a must see
New YouTube Channel that deep dives into molestation issues as it pertains to male survivors
How do you begin the conversation surrounding sexual abuse? How do you begin to talk about this with your children? Join me & my fellow panelists for RAINN’s “Back-to-School Panel” as we have a powerful conversation around healing after sexual abuse:https://youtu.be/9brpjGGhSac
I was interviewed by Benji Cole, son of Al Cole of Al Cole Enterprises that is an affiliate of CBS. If you missed the interview, you can click on the file below to hear the interview in it's entirety:
The Book Has Been Released:
Groomed has been picked up and published by Page Publishing - a publishing house based in New York. The reviews are starting to come in and this is what they are saying:
By Lila M. Jones on January 29, 2018
I am blown away by the honesty and courage it took for the author to write this book! I felt every hurt and cried, and every victory and rejoiced with him. The book is very well written and insightful, especially the chapter on Christianity. I would recommend this book to parents, victims, and every man or woman who has ever struggled with their sexuality, identity or self worth.
December 21, 2017
Format: Kindle Edition
This book comes at a most critical time in our society. With so much abuse being reported in today's media, the author puts into perspective the reasons why a victim may stay quite. Many may not realize that in a lot of ways the victim has been "Groomed ". Mr. Whitehead sheds light on topics that maybe taboo for many people. Male children being abused, is not often discussed, and many times you make not think to ask your sons the right questions, or any questions about someone being inappropriate with him. I have learned a great amount of information from the author, and he has opened my eyes to so many different key areas. This is a book every parent should read and can also be used an opening to ask those very important questions.
December 15, 2017
This is a great book. The author by using his experiences gives insight to abuse and how we are either silent about it or in denial of it. I believe this book will be a fantastic teaching tool in how to have these kinds of conversations. I recommend this book to those that want a good read or just want insight to this growing issue today.
I enjoyed this book alot. Jerome makes the book come to life. I love the way it was written to make you feel like your there. Feeling what he feels and seeing what he sees. He is an extrodinary writer and I hope to read more from him. This book was very inspiring and I hope it helps others to tell their story as well. I think its important for people to know where somone has come from and who they are as a person. This book really does speak to you. I wish you the best and many more to come.
by Dimaris Glover on January 31, 2018
I finally found a publisher for my latest work entitled, "Groomed." After trying without success to secure a literary agent, I decided to go with the services of a hybrid publisher.
This is all virgin territory for me but the contract is straight forward enough. I had to go through a submission process and as luck would have it, they selected my book as one that they believed to have enough literary value to make decent sales with the correct marketing strategy behind it.
Contracts will be signed this week and I will gather additional information on the production of this work as details become available.
~ J.L. Whitehead
Latest work soon to be released
After carefully seeking the representation of a literary agent in this industry for many years, a literary agent finally requested to read the first fifty pages of my most recent work entitled "Groomed."
The story chronicles the sexual abuse that I endured starting at the age of six and culminated when I reached the age of thirteen. I tried to tell the story as honest as I could from the vantage point of a 13 year old abuse victim and a 55 year old survivor. The story is aimed at single women with children and gay male survivors who may be struggling with emotional issues but have yet to make the correlation between their current mental state and their abuse.
Hopefully, this will initiate a dialogue that needs to be had!!!
~ J.L. Whitehead
Men Don't Talk About It!!
We're used to being protector's, providers and caregivers. We are used to being the ones that our families come to when they need strength and protection.
Unfortunately, many of us (1-6 to be precise) have been the victims of child molestation. We don't talk about it because it is so far removed from the roles in life that we portray. In all of those hats that we wear, being a victim isn't one of them.
We don't talk about it because it is easier to repress and forget rather than to relive and recover.
In the course of speaking with some male survivors, I've come to realize that when something is taken from you unwillingly, your response may range from anger to indifference. We may not understand that from the moment of that first touch, wanted or unwanted, your emotional psyche has been altered. For heterosexual men, the emotion thrown out of whack for them may be anger. After all, it isn't natural for a heterosexual man to sleep with another man.
But what about gay men? If it is natural for a gay man to sleep with another man, what emotion is thrown out of whack for them?
Being an abuse survivor who admits to being gay, I've come to realize that the emotion that was compromised for me was the need for love, inclusion and acceptance.
In "45 Years of Dark" I chronicle my personal experiences from the time of my molestations (Yes...it happened more than once by more than one perpatrator) to my realization that I was a victim and that I needed to reclaim what many a gay man needs to reclaim...their sense of their true self.
It took a lot out of me to put this project together and initially, I didn't even want to write it because I didn't want to relive the darker parts of my life. But as the title suggest, I've lived in the dark for most of my life. It's time to shine the light into those dark places and walk into the warmth of healing.
This book is for any gay man who knows what it is like to have their innocence compromised because of a predator.
What Are They Saying About "Bruthas" Book One?
Review by James A. Cox, Editor-in-Chief from The Midwest Book Review
The Mystery and Suspense Shelf
Review by Adrienna Turner from Dreams4More Firm
Review by Leona Romich from Apooo Bookclub - Note: Review was on the first release of "Bruthas" in 2010 under 5ivestar Publications
5 Minutes, 5 Questions with author J.L. Whitehead - Interview with Joey Pinkney
Dreams4More Blogtalk radio interview with J.L. Whitehead
CoffeeHouse Conversations by A'ndrea J. Wilson - One on One with J.L. Whitehead
The Masquerade Crew deems "Bruthas" as an excellent read worthy of 5 out of 5 stars
The Readers Paradise Book Club weighs in on "Bruthas" giving it 4 out of 5 stars!
Oosa Book Club give "Bruthas" 4.5 Stars out of 5!!
Author A'ndrea J. Wilson (Wife 101) gives the crime drama, "Bruthas" 4.25 Stars!!
Foresight Literary Lounge "Author Ondrea L. Davis" gives "Bruthas" 4.5 Stars!!
Urban Fantasy Reviews gives "Bruthas" 4 out of 5 stars!
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